Boru ni Raja

This is my first year end spending time with my husband family.

A little homesickness come to me. My little sist sent me her photo cleaning up the home. It is a ritual for us before facing the new year. Making so much cakes with mom till midnight, and mandok hata ritual and many more. I can't do those now. And for the next time i won't may be.

In bataknese, a girl who has married is considered been sold to her husband family. So here i am with my new family.

No lazzines but marhobas. You are labelled as boru ni raja it means in your mother in law house you should washing the dishes, clean up the room, thinking about what to eat, what to do for comfy all people there and ready for any instrution. Like making tea for guest coming.

No intimate with your husband but stand with all your strength. Here i am, the new member in this family, the person i really know well and love me so well is my husband only. Well, here my husband and they all can reflex their love with all lovely touch. Of course, i don't. It is impossible to give or accept lovely touch from your fam in law. So it seems i am the only strong human there. Of course i miss my husband, but we can do nothing. Also my husband doesnt treat me like his priority, sleeping in his mom legs with lovely hand touch from his mom, walking left me behind if we walk together. May be he just too enjoy his time and forget his role as a husband. What can i do? Just stay strong boru ni raja.

Loving and be wise. Boru ni raja should can love your fam in law as you love your biologic fam with all your respect. You should be wise to face any condition with all bataknese custom. Any mistake will be considered as 'dang hasea'. Boru ni raja should take with her all the respect in every her thought every her word and every her action.

The last, i will always learn. I will stand firm. I let no body can hurt me but i will love. I will love.

Happy new year 2017. Please come to the earth all the peace from our God and all prosperity.

Tarutung, dec 30 2016